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If you are having problems with privacy for yourself or your children, I might be able to help. Sure it is hard for a number of people to share a household and sure they each want a certain degree of privacy, this is normal for you and your child.
When a child starts growing up, and getting mature, he will need a little private time and also a private space just as you require this also. Don't be upset, this is normal and you each have your right to privacy, but along with privacy comes being trustworthy and responsible, they go hand in hand for each of you.
Sit down and talk with your child and find out his reasons for wanting his own private time and also his own private space, you'll soon find out if this is just a normal part of growing up or is there something he wants to hide. This is very important for you to know the difference. Be sure to notice if he is extremely moody or wants to be alone too often, then it could be a problem requiring counseling but we are just discussing a normal reaction in a child wanting his private time and private space.
You might want to sit down with a child and both of you work on setting forth some rules, say you will knock on his door before entering and you also require that he knock before entering. This is only a matter of respecting the other person. Also if he is to have private time say in his bedroom, there will be rules on food in the room,
if food is brought in, then he will need to clean
up crumbs, bring out dishes, etc. Let him know
if he wants privacy then there will be rules and
if he follows these rules you will know that he
is ready for his privacy.
You could make some door handle signs such as are at motels when you spend the night, Do Not Disturb, Do Not Enter to be hung on the door during each person's private time. Now even as a parent you won't be just opening the door to a child's room if his privacy sign is on the door.
Do not feel guilty about wanting your own privacy just to relax or read or even take a nice long bubble bath or watch that favorite television program in your bedroom, the den or whereever. When you both respect the other's privacy life
will be calmer in the home and life will be better, sure there will be problems but can't you solve these problems as the parent, with respect and love I feel that you will each achieve privacy.
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